How does your boss talk? I assume it is her job you want. If it ain’t, whose job is it? Or have I been wasting my time here? Come on, whose job do you want? Let’s start with the boss. How does your boss talk?
What do I mean—how does your boss talk? I’ll explain. It isn’t her accent or pronunciation—how she sounds—but the content, what she says. I bet you talk in terms of “I,” whereas your boss will probably use “we” much more. You might speak from a worker’s point of view, whereas your boss will speak on behalf of the company.
The more senior you go, the less likely you are to
• Chatter inanely喋喋不休
• Talk about last night’s TV programs or any other issues that have no relevance to the work being done—bosses tend to be much more focused and less inclined to waste time
• Prattle on—bosses tend to be more thoughtful and pause before speaking (or at least the good ones do)
So, if you are going to talk one step up, you need to be more thoughtful, talk about issues that are relevant, talk in terms of “we” rather than “I,” be focused and dynamic, and keep personal details to yourself—bosses don’t chatter or gossip about their social lives.
I guess what you have to do is be the grown-up and speak to the other workers as children. You become aloof and slightly withdrawn, mature and responsible, dependable and conscientious.
When I say aloof I do not mean arrogant. I’m sure you have encountered lots of managers who make this simple mistake. Arrogance has no place at work. Arrogance is conceit and fake importance. Aloofness is being slightly withdrawn, being detached, being superior by nature of experience, skill, and natural ability.
BE FOCUSED AND DYNAMIC, AND KEEP PERSONAL DETAILS TO YOURSELF—BOSSES DON’T CHATTER OR GOSSIP ABOUT THEIR SOCIAL LIVES.